First Aid Training for Parents

Infant CPR image

Infant CPR image

A couple of months ago I had the lucky chance to join a free first aid training course through MiniK’s daycare. It was a trial run for a course that the Australian Training Solutions wanted to do for parents.

I was very glad to have finished that course. It was something I would have taken while I was still pregnant to prepare myself. It’s such an informative and interactive session that covers such a broad range — from CPR, to burns, to choking, seizures, bites, stings, poisoning, fractures, head and spinal injuries and more.

I know it’s a scary thought but I think it’s always better to be informed and prepared about these things.

Parents can attend a public course in ATS’s city rooms every fortnight, or you guys can also organise yourselves in groups of between 6-15 and they can conduct the course privately in your venue on an agreed date.

It’s $95 per person for the training session. Visit their website for more information.

The Food Ultimatum

In the last couple of months, before and after Christmas, I decided to impose an ultimatum in the household. It may sound a bit harsh for everyone else but for me, it feels right.

Basically the rule is whatever is on the table for lunch or dinner will be the only thing consumed for lunch or dinner. There is no asking for pasta, or spaghetti or sandwich or whatever else you feel like eating. If you don’t want to eat what is on the table, you don’t eat at all.

My little one went through a fussy food phase last year and I made the mistake of letting her drive what she wanted to eat, mainly because I didn’t want to argue.

But I realised fairly quickly (thank goodness) that it was totally wrong. And yes, I go back to this view quite often but I again I compared this situation to the kids in the Philippines (or any other third world country for that matter) who scamper for food, no matter what type or how unclean, because they are starving.

Mums have a hard time feeding their kids. In first world countries, it’s because kids are fussy. In third world countries, it’s because there is nothing to feed them.

So I explained this situation to my little one and I told her that from now on, if she doesn’t eat what’s there, she doesn’t eat at all.

And you know what? I meant it too. I don’t do empty threats. When she realised this (fairly quickly I might add), she followed the rules. And yes, she might not finish all of it (which I think is fine) but she does consume a reasonable amount of food without complaints. By food I mean meat and vegetables (broccoli, mushrooms, cauliflower, etc) – vegetables that are not hidden in her food.

I’m not totally unwavering in this situation. I let her choose her breakfasts, we have pasta nights, pancake mornings, crepe meals, pizza nights and dessert nights (not all in the same week). But the rule has helped a lot with the meals and I’m so glad I stuck to it.

Busy really, kinda busy

own

Some things I’ve bought, made, been obsessed with lately, not in any order.

1. My 2012 MummyK blog entries have been printed into a book. I do this every year, and a lot of the entries are not in the blog. I think it’s a nice thing to keep for the family, plus my handwriting sucks so this will ensure future generations understand what I was writing about.

 2012 blog book

2. I finally invested in a set of indestructible mani/pedi set. Are they indeed that good? Yes, they are. My nails didn’t chip for ages, and when they did it was because I missed to paint the special coat on some bits (I painted them too short and didn’t cover all of it). Orly nails are worth the investment, plus I got the whole set 50% off!

3. Gordon is our new dog. He is maltese x poodle and he’s four years old and super sweet. It’s been nine years since we went back to that pound after getting Felix. I like the thought that after losing one dog, we’re saving another.

gordon

4. My pretty little Nikon needed a cute protector. Ebay is awesome for that sort of stuff!

5. I finally admitted I needed to upgrade my glasses. My sight isn’t that bad but it’s been advised that I wear it when I’m doing computer work, crochet, arts and crafts, sewing and so on. So why not go with a great one? Oscar Wylee has a great fashionable range, and it only costs $98 — including everything plus free shipping. They also donate to charity for every pair they sell. I bought my first pair and will probably buy another one later on.

oscar wylee

6. Vital greens was suggested by a friend of ours and the only con I can find is that it is expensive. But you don’t need much and it lasts long so it’s a very good health investment.

7. Toilet roll monsters are awesome! I found these guys through a blog tutorial and I tried it with MiniK. She loved it and we had such a great time making them. Don’t they look gorgeous??!!

toilet roll monster

8. Zumba Wii has been my lifesaver the last month. I am actually loving it and I’ve been consistent with it. I bought 1 and 2 after trying out the game from a friend.

wii

9. I am trying to grow my own mushrooms. I found Fungi Culture where you can buy your own kit. They are growing sooo well. Will post photos when they’re fully grown and about to be harvested for mushroom tempura!

fungi culture

10. I’ve been experimenting on levitation photos after seeing what’s out there. They are sooo awesome and I want to make more complicated ones with MiniK. She loves the idea of photos of her flying ;)

floating inara

kitchen flying copy

11. I arranged our wall finally. It’s been too cluttered for my taste so I bought a couple of letters and painted them to spell our surname. Of course hubby changed it to an anagram of our family name. Yep, we are The Evils.

the evils

12. I love my Mr Tea Infuser! We found it in a little shop called Socrates while we were in Hobart.

mr tea infuser

13. Found this in the same shop as Mr Tea. I love my Zombie family stickers!

zombie stickers

14. I’m on craft crack again. Made this owl for our friend’s one year old, and then I got the idea from Spoonful to turn our old cardboard boxes into a tree house.

own tree

15. And I also found this great recipe from Pioneer woman for very sinful, very baaaaad yet very gooood cinnamon rolls. I had to give most of it to hubby’s work because it was dangerous to have around the house.

rolls

Wordless Wednesday: The Grateful Edition

Dinner outside the house. Bouncy castle for her birthday. Jamie Oliver meals that turn out very well. Breakfasts out with hubby. My pretty ballerina. San churros trip. My new food processor. More Jamie Oliver meals. Making fresh wholemal bread. Free wine.

Dinner outside the house. Bouncy castle for her birthday. Jamie Oliver meals that turn out very well. Breakfasts out with hubby. My pretty fierce ballerina. San churros trip. My new food processor. More Jamie Oliver meals. Making fresh wholemeal bread. Half a dozen free wine.

My Little Drummer Boys

Gamer mum

I’m a gamer. I can’t deny that anymore. It turns out I’ve always been a gamer in one form or another.

It’s normal to be playing computer games as a child. That’s kinda expected but it went over my childhood and spilled on to my uni years – spilled a lot.

But then again, isn’t it normal for uni students to get addicted to games? Having a boyfriend who was as equally into gaming as I was kinda amplified things.

Command and Conquer was my initial addiction. It moved on to Mech Warriors, Tomb Raider, Sims, Warcraft, Spacecraft, Duke Nukem, and so on and so forth. It was a wonder how I passed my exams given all the games I had access to.

After uni, there wasn’t much time to go back into gaming so I guess it was a forced break. But then coming to Australia changed all that. Hubby’s PSP2 game collection rekindled the gaming fire within me – Mark of Kri, Mortal Kombat, Resident Evil, Are you afraid of the dark, Playboy mansion and more. On top of that, I got a job reviewing Playstation games so that was even more interesting.

Then bubba came. And so that was that. I tried playing Mark of Kri again while she had a nap, but that didn’t last that long. So I’ve put that out of my head.

But then I discovered iPhone apps, and again, I got addicted. I thought it was irresponsible of me to be so engrossed into various gaming apps. While we were on holidays in the Philippines, I developed an RSI because of playing too much Plants vs Zombies on my iPhone. I’ve since calmed down but my game apps have expanded a bit more.

It took me a while to realise I am a gamer mum. I’ve always been a gamer and I guess I will always be a gamer in any shape or form. For now, it will just be in the iPhone app format.

MiniMe goes shopping

Just some bits

• Flu shot is essential. I do wonder how my little girl can endure this virus and get over it in a day while I am absolutely crawling.

• I used her tea pot as a neti pot in a desperate attempt to clear my nasal passages so I can get a good night’s sleep. It helped a bit but didn’t really do as well as the real one should. I ordered the real neti pot online. She will miss her little teapot.

• A friend told us about a friend of a friend who was massaging someone in Manila. He’s apparently like THE masseuse to go to there. Anyway, this masseuse said he was talking to his client, this white dude, who said he used to be a police but now he’s doing concerts. He’s even doing concert in one of the biggest arenas in the Philippines. The client who used to be a police was Sting. He used to be part of Police but the masseuse obviously misheard it. I wonder if Sting was humbled that there’s actually someone on the planet who doesn’t know him.

• What do you do when the flu kicks your ass so much you can’t sleep because your sinuses are totally clogged? You google home remedies and make them. Nothing worked so far. It turns out a viral cause for blocked sinuses can only be cured by getting better.

• We finally found a new place. Cheaper rent, bigger place, better house. With a fireplace too. And it’s beside a primary school. Yes, I have asked for an enrolment form even if my little one hasn’t turned four yet.

• I took on Mama Grace’s challenge this week and woke up before 7am. Monday and Tuesday went really well. The dogs didn’t know what hit them when I decided to walk them so early in the morning. But then the flu punched me in the gonads and that was that. I still kept waking up early though, only because my nose is so clogged up I couldn’t go back to sleep. At least I’m consistent eh?

• I was looking forward to a 50s themed party tonight which is looking like a dead goal. I can hardly swallow because my glands are so swollen. My Audrey Hepburn Breakfast at Tiffany’s new dress will be sad. My new hookers-will-be-shamed red lipstick will go into depression. My new longer-than-yo-mama’s fake eyelashes will melt and die. What can you do? I am barely breathing.

• In a haze with the flu and parenting alone for the weekend. Hubby’s off to Tassie to see his dad, who is not getting better. I hope one day we can travel because we want to. Not because it’s triggered by something.

I know there’s light at the end of the tunnel folks. I just need to sleep.


So this is what 5am looks like

I woke up just a bit after 3am and couldn’t go back to sleep.

I’ve never been up before 5.30am for no reason. I like my sleep. Even after I became a mother, I found ways to sleep in until 9am, even 10am sometimes. I am not one of those who work late at night or very early in the morning. If I really have to, I might but the latest would be midnight and that’s it.

I like my sleep. Have I mentioned that already?

But if sleep eludes me, I am not one to lie in bed awake for no reason at all.

So today, I decided to get up and do some of the things in my to do list before dawn breaks.

I keep staring out the window, waiting for the sun to come up. But at the same time, I want the clouds to bring the rain. It’s been raining almost every day the last couple of weeks. It limits things we can do. And I know some people hate the rain and the grey clouds. But as much as I love the sunshine, I also love the rain. I love grey skies all day. I love that when I look out the window, I can’t tell what time it is because the sky hasn’t changed colour. I love the sound of the rain on my window.

I don’t want to analyse it too much. I just know I do love the rain. It brings out a lot more of my creativity than the sun, I think.

Lately, I’ve been trying to find the time to do everything on my list. “Maybe you should wake up earlier,” my little voice says. Nope. That bit I’m not compromising on.

For the most part, I have been able to do the things that need to be done. It’s the things I want to do that are getting set aside.

For instance, right now I have 10 articles on my list that needs to be written. Some can be written now while others need more information from people I’m waiting on. I know I need to work on these things now. They provide the family with a really good monthly income and I want to sustain it so I don’t have to go back to an office environment.

But at the same time, there is this personal project I want to keep working on – the other book I’ve started writing last year. I finished my second children’s book already (yay) and I’m waiting for some feedback from the two competitions I joined. If it doesn’t get picked up, I’ll self-publish it. The other project is a bigger one, much scarier one because it is bigger. And knowing my laziness to finish big projects (I can’t even finish knitting a cape because it takes too long), I am afraid that if I don’t keep at it, I’ll just dump it – which would be very unfortunate given I actually got real life feedback from a real life publisher. And the feedback wasn’t bad either. It was even open and hopeful, with some future possibilities.

I know, right? I should really keep at it. I do wonder how other working mums do it – juggle kids and work and personal projects. I wouldn’t mind hearing some tips – as long as it doesn’t compromise my sleeping habits.

So again I look outside the window and it’s looking grey. My heart skips a beat.

The thing about the Bento box

bento owl

So it seems that I’ve managed to get myself into the Bento lunch box craze for kids.

I’ve seen it before from other blogs but I never really paid much attention to it. I’ve never tried food art before and I never really thought I could do something like that.

But then a friend of mine said she ordered a book on making bento lunch boxes and I just got sucked into it. The creative person inside of me got challenged. I never imagined doing something like food art but for some reason, I was so inspired to try it out.

So I did. I started with trial number one, and now I’m on my fifth try. I can’t seem to stop.

 

The thing is, this whole thing has nothing to do with my daughter even if she’s the one I make it for. She will eat whatever I put in her lunchbox. It’s not like I had a problem making her school lunches before.

What I did notice is the difference in my reaction to the whole process of making her lunches. I used to dread it as yet another chore. Making her lunches was a blah moment, a very blah moment. But now, I find myself giggling with excitement after deciding what to do next. It does take longer but not too much longer, around 30-40 minutes depending on how complex the project is. I also make sure there isn’t a lot of wasted food because I really hate wasting food. The delay is mostly because I don’t have a lot of sandwich cutters around the house so I have to shape them using various tools like a knife and a cup or bowl.

At first, she didn’t want to eat the food because it was too pretty. But now she’s getting used to it. Her school carers are now excited to see her lunchbox. They tell me what letters they’re covering that week so I can match it with her lunch.

It’s fun, yes. But I do worry what will happen when I decide to stop. I think maybe I put the bar up too high.

(I do wish I took better photos though. Maybe next time I’ll use my DSLR).

Work versus chores

Over the last couple of months, after deciding to step back from the blogging race, I’ve accepted more magazine work from the publication I’ve been writing for. Since the start of the year, they’ve added around four magazines for me to write for, which is good because aside from the financial gains, I also like stretching my brain cells a bit more than figuring out where Dora is heading next.

I’ve just calculated how much money I earned from this for March and it blew me away. I knew I was busy but looking at how much I got from it really emphasised just how busy I was. I’ve never earned this much before and I’m really hoping to keep this going.

I’ve gotten the reputation of delivering the goods when it’s needed – even with very short notice (and I mean very short) – like when one of their feature stories fall through during printing week. Although it ends up being stressful when it’s a really tight deadline, I kinda like it. It reminds me of my old work and I seem to thrive under pressure. I also like the fact that the head of the publication specifically asks the editors to contact me for urgent stories. I want to maintain this relationship with the publication because I don’t want to go back to regular work after MiniMe goes to school, and if I can do this long term, I’d be very happy.

I know I might say I’m doing this part time or freelance, but it’s been feeling like a full time and full on role. I’m juggling so many things in the air – plus the fact that I’ve just started getting addicted to crochet (addiction is the right word in this instance) and I want to leave my nights free for it.

So because of all the balls in the air, something’s gotta give. I’ve hired a weekly cleaner. Why not do it all myself? Because I don’t like it. I can do it all but I get extremely cranky. Between having a cranky wife and spending money for the chores, hubby preferred the latter. I’d rather be under pressure doing what I love doing than be under pressure hating what I’m doing. And I hate chores. I was trained to do my job but I was never trained to do chores (it’s a culture thing, it’s cheaper to hire help in the Philippines). I get depressed when I do chores I detest (like dishwashing because our bloody dishwasher can’t fit in the kitchen). I don’t mind the ones I like though, like ironing or folding the laundry, because I can watch something while doing them at the same time.

But I digress.

Writing in these magazines is stretching my mental abilities. These are trade magazines in different industries – industries I have no background on. None whatsoever. For instance, my most recent challenge was writing a story for an automotive magazine. And this is not just about cars, it’s a magazine that caters for mechanics. I’m writing about car specs – blowers, nitrous systems, injection systems and engines and stuff like that. It’s like alien speak to me. The only thing I know about cars are the visible parts – you know, doors, tires, windows and windshields. Thank god for a semi revhead husband, and a totally revhead brother in law!

I do love the challenge though. I’m writing about things I have no knowledge of and so research is very important – which means I’m learning new things with each story. But at the end of the day, my head does feel like a zombie’s – I just want to eat other people’s brains to add to my own.

Brainzzzz…

Delaying tactic

You know that thing kids do to extend the sleepy time routine? It’s absolutely phenomenal how they can come up with the best things ever just to have that couple of minutes more.

I should be annoyed but how can you be annoyed?

The big hugs and cuddles, with matching “I love you so much mummy.”

Then there’s the Eskimo noses followed by “Thank you so much for taking care of me mummy.”

Then there are the big sloppy kisses and the kisses on the nose followed by “I’m sorry mummy for (insert the tiniest transgression here that she did during the day that can’t really be counted as one).

And more cuddles, kisses and I love yous.

It’s only a couple of minutes each night. And although it’s blatant manipulation to extend the sleepy time routine, I really honestly don’t care. It only lasts a couple of minutes. And it doesn’t last that long too. I only have a couple more years till these little things stop.

So I’m going to extend these delaying tactics for as long as I can.

The perils of toilet training

I’m not one of those mums. You know, the ones who read up on toilet training two years before their kid is ready?

I read about toilet training on my iPhone while the other hand is wiping poo and/or pee off the floor from her nth accident. I have browsed through an article or two but I never really do the research until I’m personally involved in the situation.

Right now, I am personally involved with the situation.

Whilst on holiday in the Philippines, she only had one minor accident after she decided to toilet train herself. But when we got back home, more accidents occurred. I know it’s normal and I know I should be patient, but like any mother out there, I am only human – awesome but still just human.

I know I should be supportive and calm and zen about the whole poo and/or pee on the floor/carpet/chair/mat/bed/rug/any other surface that could possibly be the worst spot for such things, but when it happens and I look at the mess I have to clean up, two things happen without my control. First is anger because she did it and warned me a microsecond before she did it. Second is guilt because I got angry.

The third thing is something I control very well – tears/frustration, which has the potential to be followed by collapse and then the consumption of copious amounts of sweets such as chocolate or ice cream.

It baffles me how the toilet accidents happen in just the “right” moments, like her bladder and long intestines know that mum is in the middle of something that is hard to interrupt, or moments when all I need is just one more thing to do before my body collapses in a heap.

For instance, she wants to go to the toilet just when I’m in the middle of doing my own business – you know, the long one. And because it’s just not possible to stop what I’m doing, her own system suddenly explodes on the spot and I have the clean up to look forward to after I’m done with my business.

Another example would be while I’m in the middle of flouring and frying pieces of fish for dinner. My hands are covered with flour and the pan is hot with fish that should not be left alone because it could burn really fast. But at that moment, she decides to empty her bladder on the chair she’s standing on to help me flour the fish – hands covered and sticky with flour.

And finally, it happens when I’m having one of those days when everything is on deadline, and the house is a mess, and someone’s at the door, and the dogs are barking like mad, and I just found dog’s poo somewhere where it shouldn’t be and there are chores that should have been done like yesterday.

I do wonder if there are mothers out there who go through toilet training in high heels and manicured nails, without breaking a sweat. Is it just me who is a bit  (okay, a lot) hopeless? I so hope not.