There was a time several years ago when I looked at a friend’s Facebook photos with his wife. They were full on loving — kissing, gazing into each other’s eyes. I thought wouldn’t it be great to be this out with affection? I envied them. I thought my own marriage was a small flame compared to their fiery passion.
Months later they broke up in the most horrible and convoluted way possible. The marriage was riddled with constant fights that never made it to social media.
Then I saw another couple I know who went on this huge overseas trip for their 10 year anniversary and plastered it all over Facebook. It was in one of the most romantic countries in the world. A place where I always wanted to go with hubby but couldn’t afford to. The couple was all smiles and loving. So they should be. They made it a decade together! Then months later I find out the wife has been cheating on her husband all those years – with strangers, his mates, his colleagues — and she’s still at it. He still doesn’t know.
Then I looked at my close friends – the ones I personally know have solid marriages. Although they have photos together on social media, it’s not a lot. They don’t flaunt it nor do they overdo the PDAs. I realised you can never tell.
Social media is yet another tool to convince the world that your lie is a truth. It’s just another way to hide your reality while only showing the truth you want perceived by others. Except this time your audience is the world instead of just your neighbours.