I know every mum has gone through them, and I know every mum’s got their own ready retort. But still, it can get annoying hearing comments just flying out like that without proper thought.
The most recent ones were about MiniMe’s bed and emotional status.
First of, the bed. She sleeps on a queen size bed. Yes, I know. Pick your jaws off the floor. The reason? I co slept for ages and still co sleep when she’s sick or we have visitors. We won’t fit on a single bed. I wish we would but I’m not that skinny. Now, we don’t have three bedrooms. We have two bedrooms and a music room. So if I dump the queen bed just to satisfy someone’s comment about her being on a huge bed and move her to a single bed, where in the effing world will we put the queen size? The kitchen?
Second. MiniMe is a sweet child. The sweetest ever, and she emphatises with others so much. Some people believe she is too “soft” and that I should “toughen her up”. How? By dropping her in the middle of a war torn country and leaving her there? By not responding when she cries? By teaching her to punch or kick? By screaming at her? By smacking her? How do I drastically change a child who’s been sweet and “soft” since the day she was born? How pray tell?
She’s happy, she’s healthy, she’s loving, she’s always smiling and laughing and she is damn clever (so clever her school put her up a level because she was getting bored with the activities of kids her age). All in all I could not have asked for a better child. No child is perfect, yes. But I’d never ask for a better child than what I have now.
So stuff those unnecessary comments. I’ll only listen to you if you have something constructive to say. Go chew on a chilli.