It puzzles me sometimes the things that people do or don’t do.
We teach our children to apologise if they’ve hurt someone. But we don’t do it ourselves. We teach them not to lie, to always tell the truth. But we keep the biggest lies and take them to our graves. We tell them to be themselves and not pretend to be someone else. But we put up the thickest facades. We tell them to be kind to others. But we don’t hesitate to pick on each other online and offline.
What chance do our kids have if us parents don’t even believe what we preach?
It doesn’t even matter how big or small it is. They’ll catch on quickly and realise that when they grow up, what we taught them don’t apply anymore.
It can be the little things.
Like a mother who is fit and healthy but calls other people ‘fat’ or ‘useless’. Or perhaps one who tells her kids to eat healthy yet doesn’t do it herself. Or even one who tells kids off for swearing yet lets out a torrent of abuse to someone else in front of them.
It can be big too.
Like cheating on partners, bullying friends and workmates, stealing from work funds, abusing the system to get ahead, and so on.
How do we explain that to our kids?
That there are exceptions to the rule? That we don’t really need to be kind, honest and responsible all the time?
What would you say to them? How would you explain it? We bring a clean being into this world only to taint them.